How to maintain a close connection with your cat

Everyone who has ever had a cat knows they are definitely emotionally delicate creatures. They seem to function much differently than dogs. Cats make humans actually "work" for their affection, but offer it back when they feel comfortable with their caretakers. While some cats may rather simply live their lives without much input from you, a large portion of them are simply waiting for you to show them that they are a part of your life. In other words, in order to receive affection, you need to put some out there. Some cats are naturally more affectionate than others, but all cat owners can work to improve the relationship with their feline by following a few simple steps:

#1 Make yourself approachable!

This I feel is true for most animals... well the ones that are at least domesticated. Haha! Many of us are preoccupied with life a lot, and that may even be why you chose a cat as a companion‒we all know they’re relatively independent animals. Even so, a hectic lifestyle and a general unwelcoming attitude or atmosphere doesn’t give a cat a feeling of comfort. This will often lead to them not only acting up, but avoiding you.The best way to change this is to make yourself approachable. Maybe your cat has an affinity for a particular blanket or pillow, so put it in your lap and help them associate you with their comfortable spot. Always be calm and aim to reduce jerky movements or excited reactions while spending one-on-one bonding time with your companion.

#2. Play, play, play.

Remember that cats are predators and there’s nothing they like to do more than hone their predatory skills through simulated predator/prey situations. While we refer to it as “play,” and they may very well enjoy it, it’s them acting out their basic instincts, and they’re sure to appreciate your help. Believe it or not, they’re usually well aware of the fact that it’s you holding the string going across the floor, and they know it’s you controlling the laser. They associate this activity with you, and they grow to both appreciate the attention and crave more of it. Most cats have a favorite toy, so anytime you pick it up and take it for a spin, they’re likely to take notice and want to join in.

#3 Know what they are telling you

Cats are pretty good when it comes to the infamous game of charades. Their body language is one for the pros! I'm not talking about your sweet feline meowing over an empty bowl of food. I'm talking about down and real feelings here! One of the most easy ways to tell what your cat is saying or how they feel is by watching their tail. Yep, that's right! If the tail is straight up not bent that usually indicates it feels comfortable and welcoming. If the tail is bent down behind them a bit, this usually means they feel threatened or feel defensive or aggravated. If they tail is whipping side to side haphazardly, this usually indicates they may be annoyed or mad. And one of my favorites to watch cats be good at.... curiosity. If the tail is up and the tip is bent and ticking side to side, they are inquisitive and preoccupied.

#4 Never Strike Your Friend

You don't go swinging at your friends if they displease you do you!? Probably not...your friends probably wouldn't react in a good way if that were to go down. Well, cats are the same. Cats respond poorly to physical harm which can cause them to retaliate and fear you. Having your cat view you as a source of pain is not the best way to improve your relationship.

Every once in awhile when you need to get your cats "attention" or have them stop something they are doing, there are a couple of things you can do! Water! I use a water bottle and spritz the cat when I find him threading my chair. Some cats may not respond but it at least can help teach them to get rid of some bad habits.

Loud noises is another option. Clapping your hands and/or yelling, "stop" or "no" sometimes can work too.

Cats are amazing creatures, and such should be loved and treated with respect! If you have any questions regarding your cats behavior, please consult your veterinarian.